He coincidentally started crawling with her right there, his first words were in front of her, and he began standing, cruising, and walking when she happened to be home. I send texts over little things she misses through the day so that it's not completely unbelievable, but my wife has been 'present' for every single BIG milestone. She was so worried and guilty about not being there and she took it as proof that she can still be a present mother while working. I thought she was going to tell her, but instead she says 'Julie, you came home right on time! He's been moving about as if he's going to roll over!' They both stood there encouraging him, and right on cue he rolls. When she got home, my mom pulled her over to the baby all excited. The first big milestone she missed was him rolling over. I know it's been hard on her, but unfortunately it's just going to be this way for another year. My mom and I make sure that when she's home and the baby is awake, my wife gets him 100%. Sometimes she comes and goes for 1-3 days and our son is asleep the whole time she's home, which has been happening more as his sleep schedule shifted to sleeping through the night. She's quite old-fashioned and would definitely not prefer this arrangement with me being a stay-at-home dad, but she hasn't said anything to either of us and has been a great help.įor anyone unfamiliar with medical residency, it is brutal. My mom moved in with us shortly after the birth in order to help out, which allows me to get in the few hours of work per day and also not get swamped with taking care of the baby/housework.

She took a few weeks off before giving birth, and then went back to work a few months after, while I transitioned my hours to part-time so that I could stay at home and raise our son. This all went down about an hour ago and my wife is still crying in our bathroom with the door locked.īackstory: We had our son (now 11 months old) while my wife is in residency.

A wife and a mother android